You guessed positive reinforcement, didn’t you? Close- but today I’m going with HUMOR!
When things are tense- can we help ourselves and our kids to crack a smile to defuse the situation?
When my kids are in a bad mood, it’s easy for me to slip into traditional kneejerk parenting reactions. It’s easy to become overly firm and frustrated. This is when voices rise. Tempers rise. Power struggles begin. Who exactly is winning here? I’m not happy with my own behavior following a tense interaction let alone my kids’ behavior.
What if instead of getting firm we got silly? Can we salvage the situation, the morning, the day? I say HECK YES!
Get that grin and helping your kids follow through is a million times easier!
And the best part of all- laughing together helps that highly desired true connection with your kids. Not only does it defuse a situation or help them follow instructions- it strengthens your relationship. It helps your kids to feel safe and secure with you- you are the bringer of the smiles, not the bringer of the threats of punishment or the bringer of rasied voices and power struggles.
Embrace the silly!