What should we say when our kids are having big feelings?
When our kids are having those big emotional reactions that we just want to jump in and fix…pause instead and just name what is going on.
Name the feeling:
I can see that you are…(sad, disappointed, upset, frustrated).
Name the behavior:
I can see that you are…(crying, stomping, making an unhappy face)
And then stop. No and or but added on. Just let them know that you see them, their feelings are valid, and you are aware of what’s going on.
Sometimes that’s all they need. Sometimes then you still have to go into problem-solving mode but try this simple sentence first.